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How to Become a Cycle-Breaking Parent in 4 Steps

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How to Become a Cycle-Breaking Parent in 4 Steps

by Guest Author on May 30 2022
Unlike many of our parents who repressed, denied, ignored, or shamed their own feelings, resulting in abusive explosions and emotional neglect, becoming a cycle breaker means that we commit to FACE-ing our emotions with clarity and deep compassion. Here's how to use FACE (Feel, Amplify, Connect, and Embrace), a 4-step process, to break cycles.
What To Do When Positive Parenting Isn't Working

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What To Do When Positive Parenting Isn't Working

by Rebecca Eanes on May 16 2022
Sometimes parents say that positive parenting “isn’t working” for them, and when that is the case, it’s important to explore why before giving up. Here are some reasons why and 5 things to do when you feel like positive parenting isn't working for your family. 
Why You Don’t Need to Hide Your Feelings From Your Kids

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Why You Don’t Need To Hide Your Feelings From Your Kids

by Guest Author on May 09 2022
Often in the world of respectful parenting, there is this idea that parenting with intention means always being calm and happy with our kids. This is a fallacy. Here's why, and what to do instead. 
How To Reduce Your Child's Exposure To Shame

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How To Reduce Your Child's Exposure To Shame

by Rebecca Eanes on Apr 25 2022
Shame eats away at a child’s core emotional need to feel loved and connected, leaving them feeling small, unworthy, flawed, and unacceptable. As we learn to heal our shame wounds, we give our children chances for a healthy and happy emotional life. Here are 3 shame-free discipline tactics. 
A Strong Relationship Will Give You More Authority, Not Less

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A Strong Relationship With Your Child Gives You More Authority, Not Less

by Ashley Patek on Apr 25 2022
As children learn to regulate emotions and learn higher-level skills through the safe space of a supportive caregiver, not only does it strengthen your relationship but it gives you more authority. Your children will want to work with you more than they want to work against you. Here's how. 
I Messed Up. Have I Messed Up My Kids?

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I Messed Up. Have I Messed Up My Kids?

by Ashley Patek on Apr 25 2022
You know you are a parent if you have ever questioned your qualifications for the job. You may be asking yourself, How do I know I am not messing up my children every time I pitfall into conditioned habits? Whatever your wounding patterns are, these tips can help you embrace your enoughness as a cycle breaker.
The Way You Perceive Your Child Affects How You Respond To Them

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The Way You Perceive Your Child Affects How You Respond To Them

by Rebecca Eanes on Apr 18 2022
Is your child's challenging behavior bad behavior or is it a distress call? Your perspective will decide. Perspective is the lens through which you view the world. It determines how you perceive your children. By changing how we see our children, we change how we respond to them. 
Breaking The Cycle Of Fear-Based Parenting

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Breaking The Cycles Of Fear-Based Parenting

by Ashley Patek on Apr 11 2022
Here are 5 ways to use connection-based parenting (Over fear-based), and break the cycle of emotional wounding.
Toddlers And Meltdowns And Brain Development, Oh My!

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Meltdowns Develop Your Child's Brain When Met With Connection; Punishment Doesn't Work

by Ashley Patek on Apr 04 2022
Toddlers are one of the most authentic creatures on the planet, and also, arguably, the most misunderstood. On the surface, we see meltdowns, defiance, and limit testing. But there’s so much more than what meets the eye.
If It All Feels Heavy Today, Read This

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If It All Feels Heavy Today, Read This

by Rebecca Eanes on Apr 04 2022
There are millions of beautiful moments in parenting and also, sometimes, it feels hard. If you’re finding yourself in a heavy season today, or if you are having trouble recognizing yourself, here are 5 pieces of encouragement. 
When Your Child Says "I Hate You!"

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When Your Child Says "I Hate You!"

by Guest Author on Mar 28 2022
When your child says “I hate you!” you might find yourself getting defensive or you may feel the urge to assert control over the situation. The key to getting to the root of the challenge is to look beyond the hurtful words to figure out what’s going on for them emotionally. What are they really saying?
Stop Saying, "He Hurts You Because He Likes You"

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Stop Saying, "He's Mean To You Because He Likes You"

by Ashley Patek on Mar 21 2022
"He's mean to you because he likes you" is a harmful message that perpetuates the cycle of bullying and programs our children to accept abuse. Here are 4 things our kids need to know about boundaries and consent.
5 False Toddler Myths

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5 False Toddler Myths

by Rebecca Eanes on Mar 21 2022
Toddlerhood is a precious time. We do our kids and ourselves a great injustice by assigning negative intent to their developmentally normal behaviors. Instead of going to war, let’s spend these quickly-passing years seeking to understand our little ones and rewrite the narrative on common myths.
Can You Spoil A Baby?

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You Can't Spoil A Baby With Your Love

by Ashley Patek on Mar 14 2022
Keep holding them. Keep tending to their needs. Keep doing what feels right. It is impossible for you to spoil them with love. 
Is It Okay For Me To Cry In Front Of My Child?

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Is It Okay For Me To Cry In Front Of My Child?

by Guest Author on Mar 06 2022
How do we straddle the line of expressing emotion in front of our children while letting them know that they are not responsible for our feelings? The process can be vulnerable and uncomfortable, but this is often how it feels when we commit to breaking cycles of generational wounding.
New Mum Of Two

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New Mum of Two

by Guest Author on Feb 28 2022
Writer Jess Urlichs shares a poem about being a mother to two.
Our Children May Be Self-Centered, But They Aren't Selfish

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Our Children May Be Self-Centered, But They Aren't Selfish

by Ashley Patek on Feb 21 2022
Every time our child snatches a toy or melts down or forgets to say “thank you,” we worry our children will grow to be disrespectful, which motivates us to teach the lesson. But when we understand brain development, we can approach these situations in ways that build the skills without shame. Here are 3 ways. 
20 Ways to Speak Your Child’s Love Language

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20 Ways to Speak Your Child’s Love Language

by Rebecca Eanes on Jan 24 2022
What love language does your child speak and how can you speak it so they feel deeply valued and loved?
Three Words Our Kids Need To Hear

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Three Words Our Kids Need To Hear

by Ashley Patek on Jan 03 2022
Looking to decrease power struggles, meltdowns, and "defiance"? These are the three words that your child needs to hear.
The Importance Of An Apology

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The Importance Of An Apology To A Child's Self-Worth

by Ashley Patek on Jan 03 2022
When we choose image maintenance over connection, we actually hurt our relationship with our children. Here's why apologizing to our children is one of the most important things we can do.