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The Trap of Conventional Discipline

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Conventional Discipline Doesn't Align With Child Development. Here's What To Do Instead.

by Rebecca Eanes on May 16 2022
As well-meaning parents, we second-guess ourselves instead of trusting our inner wisdom. We often feel the pressure to raise a “good” kid and be a “good” parent, and thus fall into the trap of conventional parenting. Here's how to escape the cycle. 
Why You Don’t Need to Hide Your Feelings From Your Kids

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Why You Don’t Need To Hide Your Feelings From Your Kids

by Guest Author on May 09 2022
Often in the world of respectful parenting, there is this idea that parenting with intention means always being calm and happy with our kids. This is a fallacy. Here's why, and what to do instead. 
3 Effective Ways to Separate Your Identity From Your Emotions

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3 Effective Ways to Separate Your Identity From Your Emotions

by Rebecca Eanes on May 02 2022
Whatever you are facing today, I hope you know you are more than your current struggle. You are fierce and brave. You are enough. You are a warrior.
How To Rediscover Emotions That Were Suppressed In Childhood

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How To Rediscover Emotions That Were Suppressed In Childhood

by Ashley Patek on May 02 2022
Sometimes all that we need is a safe place to feel, except we don’t know how to feel a full spectrum of emotions because we were taught not to, and even if we did feel, we lack the language to communicate those feelings. Here's how to change the narrative not only for our mental health but our kids' too. 
How To Reduce Your Child's Exposure To Shame

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How To Reduce Your Child's Exposure To Shame

by Rebecca Eanes on Apr 25 2022
Shame eats away at a child’s core emotional need to feel loved and connected, leaving them feeling small, unworthy, flawed, and unacceptable. As we learn to heal our shame wounds, we give our children chances for a healthy and happy emotional life. Here are 3 shame-free discipline tactics. 
I Messed Up. Have I Messed Up My Kids?

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I Messed Up. Have I Messed Up My Kids?

by Ashley Patek on Apr 25 2022
You know you are a parent if you have ever questioned your qualifications for the job. You may be asking yourself, How do I know I am not messing up my children every time I pitfall into conditioned habits? Whatever your wounding patterns are, these tips can help you embrace your enoughness as a cycle breaker.
Accepting Ourselves and Our Children While Embracing Growth and Change

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Accepting Ourselves And Our Children While Embracing Growth And Change

by Rebecca Eanes on Apr 18 2022
The desire to do better can exist in and of itself. It doesn’t have to be driven by a dislike or disgust of who you are now. Here are 3 steps toward self-acceptance.
I Have More Patience With My Kids Than I Do My Partner. Is That Wrong?

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I Have More Patience With My Kids Than I Do My Partner. Is That Wrong?

by Ashley Patek on Apr 11 2022
My patience threshold for my children far outweighs that for my husband. Here's why, and how my husband and I found a way to reconnect. 
Toddlers And Meltdowns And Brain Development, Oh My!

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Meltdowns Develop Your Child's Brain When Met With Connection; Punishment Doesn't Work

by Ashley Patek on Apr 04 2022
Toddlers are one of the most authentic creatures on the planet, and also, arguably, the most misunderstood. On the surface, we see meltdowns, defiance, and limit testing. But there’s so much more than what meets the eye.
Stop Apologizing For Your Child's Emotions

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Your Child’s Unpleasant Emotions Don’t Need An Apology

by Ashley Patek on Mar 28 2022
We rarely apologize when our children feel happy or grateful or proud yet we often find ourselves apologizing for unpleasant emotions. "I'm sorry you feel mad ... sad ... disappointed." How does this impact our children and what can we do instead?
10 Magical Outcomes to Dropping Your Expectations

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10 Magical Outcomes to Dropping Your Expectations

by Guest Author on Mar 20 2022
We subconsciously believe that if our children are misbehaving, then we did something wrong and we take action from a place of guilt. Here's how to flip your perspective and move from connection.
Your Child's Emotions Need Support, Not Solutions

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Your Child's Emotions Need Support, Not Solutions

by Ashley Patek on Mar 14 2022
When we attempt to fix our children’s emotions and problems, we move out of connection and into control. The focus shifts from them to us. Instead, we can sit with them in the hard stuff, offering support, not solutions. Here's how. 
Is It Okay For Me To Cry In Front Of My Child?

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Is It Okay For Me To Cry In Front Of My Child?

by Guest Author on Mar 06 2022
How do we straddle the line of expressing emotion in front of our children while letting them know that they are not responsible for our feelings? The process can be vulnerable and uncomfortable, but this is often how it feels when we commit to breaking cycles of generational wounding.
I’ve Never Grounded My Teenager - Here’s Why

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I’ve Never Grounded My Teenager - Here’s Why

by Rebecca Eanes on Feb 28 2022
In our culture, we are accustomed to training children through pain. We are fooled into thinking it’s good because it works, but it only works for a short time, and the reason it works is heartbreaking. Here's what to do instead of punishment.
4 Effective Ways To Break The Generational Cycle Of Yelling

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4 Effective Ways To Break The Generational Cycle Of Yelling

by Ashley Patek on Feb 21 2022
I yell. I was yelled at. My guess is, my parents were yelled at too. Poor emotional regulation - and its wounding - has been handed down from one generation to another. Here are 4 effective ways to break the cycle so that our children don't have to carry that shame. It stops with us.
Tuning Into Your Own Voice With 3 Simple Tools

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Tuning Into Your Own Voice With 3 Simple Tools

by Rebecca Eanes on Feb 21 2022
These 3 simple practices will help you learn to lean into your own voice, and with time and practice, you’ll be able to discern it above all others most of the time.
7 Easy Ways To Have Hard Conversations With Your Child

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7 Easy Ways To Have Hard Conversations With Your Child

by Ashley Patek on Feb 20 2022
In having hard conversations with our kids - whether it be their untamed anger as a toddler, their heartbreak as a teen, or their transition from one gender to another - we strengthen our parent-child bond and equip them with resources for how to handle future situations. Here's how to do it. 
What To When Your Child Doesn't Want To Go To The Calming Corner

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5 Things To Do When Your Child Doesn't Want To Go To The Calming Corner

by Ashley Patek on Feb 14 2022
What do you do when your child is so deep into their meltdown that they do not want to go to their calm down space ... or even want you near them? Here is a parent's guide.
Positive Communication with Kids at Every Age

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Positive Communication with Kids at Every Age

by Rebecca Eanes on Feb 14 2022
These positive communication tips will create a family culture where children and adults alike are spoken to with respect and listened to with love. Children live what they learn at home, and all of their future relationships will benefit from having learned these important and positive skills early in life.
Reclaiming Authenticity Through Self-Love

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Reclaiming Authenticity Through Self-Love

by Guest Author on Feb 07 2022
A mama shares a poem about shedding old narratives and expectations so that she can be her authentic self, and in doing so, her six-year-old son is empowered to do the same.